Transformational Parenting

Affirmation Assistance

As we begin to realize the importance and value of our thoughts in creating the life we desire, affirmations can be instrumental in re-training ourselves in how to think. Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life, illuminated the affirmation journey over two decades ago. Recently, a movie was made based on the book and it is worth a viewing if you are at all interested in healing your life, starting with your thoughts.

The purpose of affirmations is to affirm truth and desires about ourselves and our circumstances. What can happen as we begin to focus on what we want and actually verbalize those desires in the form of affirmations, is the “stuff” that gets in our way will let itself be known.

When people view an affirmation as a band-aid to a problem, the problem they are referring to is the “stuff” that has stopped you from feeling that the affirmation is true, through and through.

Your True Self knows you are totally lovable and loving, that you have every resource available to you, and that you can make your life into what you want it to be. However, your ego or inner critic, will tell you otherwise.

This part of practicing affirmations deserves your attention and I believe it is of great value to bring affirmations into your life to invite the stuff blocking your way to come up. All you need to do is make a simple commitment to yourself: I will be open to be with what is coming up.

You do not always need to know exactly what the “issue” is that is presenting itself, or the root cause. If it does show itself to you, that is fine. If not, the feeling can still be tended to.

When uncomfortable feelings or thought patterns rise to the surface, much like bubbles coming up from an underwater spring, allow yourself to be with them. Take a few deep breaths and refrain from giving them names, if they don’t have a script running already. Ask your feeling or thought what they are about if you desire. Know that acknowledging the uncomfortable feeling will help it dissolve. Do not push against it for that is what has kept it with you to this point.

Dealing with painful or stressful emotions or thoughts can be well handled through first allowing one’s self to feel them, and second, seeking out some techniques to assist if they persist. Working through emotions can be achieved through a coaching session as well.

To get started with affirmations, it is as easy as bringing to mind some statements you know to be true… or you would like to feel the truth of such as: I love me. I am perfect, whole, and worth of goodness. I am financially free. Begin by saying and writing these statements to yourself at least 5 times per day, 10-20 will have a more profound effect. This is the power of changing your thoughts with deliberate action.

As you progress, remember the importance of allowing whatever is standing in your way to come up and dissolve. It may also be helpful to ask yourself questions about your affirmations such as, “How would it be possible for me to be financially free?” or “Why do I love myself?” or “What about me is perfect and whole?” It is initially natural to question one’s self so use your mind to your advantage in this manner!

If you find you would like the help of a particular tool, you may enjoy the Dream Manifestation Wizard. As a computer based program designed to help you manifest your dreams and practice affirmations, this can be a nice addition to your computer routine. The beauty of combining the written word, visual images, and your own voice captures several senses which makes this particular program very effective. You can literally create as many affirmations and dreams as you desire, add your own pictures or those in the program, and record yourself affirming what you know to be true. Dream Manifestation Wizard is a worthy investment if you spend time on the computer regularly.

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